What Does Your Golf Game Tell You About The Health Of Your Marriage?

Is Divorce in your future?

Recently I had a client confess that he was happier on the golf course than at home. In fact, he had to admit he played a ton of golf this summer and his game was great… but his marriage had imploded in the process.

Look, I get it. I come from a LONG line of golfers that are fanatics. If they can’t play, they might as well die. I honestly believe that golf was the killer of my parents marriage. So if you are finding yourself at the course a bunch because it is what relaxes you and makes you happy, you might need to take stock and see if you are putting just as much time into your marriage to make sure it is healthy.

What are you doing to improve your marriage?

My husband is a great golfer (when he has time to play). However, he is so good about playing with me too and not getting upset at all that I am not that great. In fact, the last time we played, we did it as couples with our very dear friends. It was so much fun (even if I had a 9 on my first hole — a bit rusty — and don’t tell my Dad that I did not pick up after 6 or he would kill me). A normal guy would kill me for my first hole and say they were never taking me again. My husband, however, is the exception to the rule. He is amazing. It did not hurt that my swing kicked in after the first hole and I was either par, bogie, or worst case double bogie after that. Not bad for not having played in like 12 years I thought.

If your Spouse is a golfer and you aren’t, no problem… but how you are guys spending time together doing fun stuff?

For me, we do theater league (well, not during COVID). It is our date night every few months. We also do car shows although it is more my husband and daughter’s thing than mine. However, I have kind of grown to like it too. What about summer events… there are so many cool things to do if you go looking for them. We are constantly looking for things to do, new restaurants to try, or day trips we can take.

Marriage need a bit of a boost?

My mentor, Stacey Martino has a great way to work on your marriage even if you are the only one trying to make it better. Check out her program at https://relationshipdevelopment.org/about/

Why is a divorce lawyer trying to tell me how to save my marriage?

Maybe you are reading this thinking, Carrie Sue, you are a divorce lawyer. Isn’t it kind of strange you are helping us SAVE our marriage?

Well the truth is that most people take 18 months or so to make the decision that divorce is inevitable and they are ready to file. The majority of my clients need to try everything to save their marriage before they pull the trigger — especially if they have children. I get it. Having been through a terrible divorce myself, I understand exactly how you feel.

Admitting your marriage is headed for divorce is a hard thing. You are going through a ton of emotions which are pretty much all negative.

I know when I was going through a divorce I had a lot of fears and questions…

· How am I going to tell my family?

· What is going to happen with my kids?

· Am I going to ruin my kids life?

· What are my friends going to say? Will they even still be my friends?

· What is going to be like to live alone?

· How am I going to make it financially by myself?

One of my passions is helping people get through their divorce — not just legally, but emotionally and practically. So, I created this great resource for you to start your divorce journey. Even if you have already filed, this will help walk you through the process of your divorce and starting a new life. It is called the Ultimate Breakup Playlist. You can grab it at https://legallifeguards.com/ultimate-breakup-guide-optin

I can’t wait to hear what you think! I hope that it helps you make the transition with less bumps and tears. Good luck!